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Lower Your Gaze !!!

A young man came to a Sheikh and said : “I am a young man with strong desires. I cannot help looking at people when I am in the bazaar (market). What do I do?”

The Sheikh handed him A CUP OF MILK THAT WAS FULL TO THE BRIM, and told him to deliver it to an address that would take the young man directly through the bazaar.

He then instructed the young man that the milk should not spill, and the young man said that it would not. The Sheikh then summoned one of his students and told him to accompany the man through the bazaar to the destination, and to severely beat him if any milk were to spill.

The young man successfully took the milk to the destination and returned to give the good news to the Sheikh.

The Sheikh asked, “Tell me, how many sights and faces did you see in the bazaar?”

The young man replied incredulously : “Sheikh, I didn’t even realize what was going on around me. I was only fearful of the beating and disgrace that I would have to endure in public if a drop of milk were to spill.”

The Sheikh smiled and said : “It is the same with a believer. The believer fears that his sins will be a cause of great disgrace for him in front of Allah on the Day of Judgment if his faith were to spill over from his heart.”

Such people save themselves from sin because they constantly remain focused on the Day of Judgement !

May Allah swt make us among al-muttaqun [ the pious ] ameen !

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“If you have no shame, do whatever you like”!

SOURCE:  YasSarNal QuR’aN   

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We human beings have come through different ages in history: Stone Age, Bronze Age, Iron Age. Historians tell us that these ages are distinguished by the development of technology.

Today technology has reduced women to a mere tool in the hands of men!

It would be appropriate to call the contemporary age, the 21st century, as “the obscene age”!

This is an era where nudity is riding the crest of the society.

Today world has reached such a stage in obscenity that if you were to talk about moral aspects, man-of-the-obscene-age will look at you in a curious way as if doubting your very masculinity!

Modesty, shame, honour, bashfulness which Islam calls as hayaa is lost.

There is NO SENSE of shame whatsoever!

How true was our glorious Prophet Muhammad sal-lal-laahu-alaihi-wa-sallam when he said ‘If you have no shame, then do whatever you like’! (Read the full hadeeth here)

Nudity is promoted through movies, through cartoon shows, through print media, televisions channels and even through the so-called cricket in the name of IPL !

The best job is done by the advertising media in spreading obscenity and vulgarity among people.

It is so embarrassing to sit and watch even a News Broadcast with one’s family. You come across a dozen commercial breaks that are fully loaded with obscenity!

I dare to ask the Deodorant companies and advertisement agencies, are your mothers dead? Do you ever have daughters? Will you strip your sisters and make them run behind a man using your own deodorant brand?

What is the purpose of a deodorant? To attract 100 girls!

What message you are conveying through such advertisements?

You want to sell the product. Sell! Why the hell are you creating such filthy advertisements?

The Television channels have no manners whatsoever. They simply shift the ball to the Advertising Standard Council. They have approved, so we are telecasting!

Have you mortgaged your brain in the Bank of Obscenity Unlimited? Nay! materialism has made you worse than animals. For, some animals do not mate in public!!

The meat of the matter is whether it is government or television channels or advertising media – all have their own definition of obscenity.

For them a girl ‘dressed’ in just half-a-meter cloth is not nudity! It is progress! It is liberation! They are happy that they have freed women of the burden of dress!

Man has gone so far in shamelessness that today modesty is considered as a sign of backwardness!

People are upset at Muslim woman dressed in hijab because she curtails their freedom of gazing!

Man must understand the natural laws of Islam. The only alternative to help create a peaceful world.

Let me refer to this widely mentioned reference:

Nobel Peace Prize winner Tawakkul Karman,” ‘The mother of Yemen’s revolution,’ when asked about her Hijab by journalists and how it is not proportionate with her level of intellect and education, replied:

“Man in early times was almost naked, and as his intellect evolved he started wearing clothes. What I am today and what I’m wearing represents the highest level of thought and civilization that man has achieved, and is not regressive. It’s the removal of clothes again that is a regression back to the ancient times.” Source

Man must submit to the Guidance of his Creator. Man must go back to Modesty, his natural root.

“Satan threatens you with poverty and orders you to immorality, while Allah promises you forgiveness from Him and bounty. And Allah is all-Encompassing and Knowing”. (Surah al Baqarah 2: 268)

Jazakallahu Khayra for reading this post.

SOURCE:  YasSarNal QuR’aN

Your eyes…. and lowering the gaze

Written by: Dr. Muhammad El Saqqa Eid

Specialist and Master’s degree holder of Ophthalmology

Member of the Egyptian Association of Ophthalmology

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Allah says in the Quran {Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: And Allah is well acquainted with all that they do. And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty} (Surat Al Noor <24:30-31>)

And He also says:{Have We not given him two eyes, And a tongue and two lips,  And pointed out to him the two conspicuous ways?} (Surat Al Balad <90:8-10>)

Eyes are the precious pearls that no price can afford. Allah has called them “The beloved things”, or “the dear things”, as came in the Hadith narrated by Al Bukhari, Al Tarmizi, and Ibn Habaan, that the prophet sala Allah alyh w salam said:”Allah said, ‘If I deprive my servant of his two beloved things (i.e., his eyes) and he remains patient, I will vouchsafe him the Paradise in compensation for them.”’

The creation of the eye is one of the greatest secrets of God’s powers, and an evidence thereto. Despite their small size in comparison with the whole organs around them, their scope of vision encompasses the whole wide universe including the sky, the earth, the sea, and all creatures.

The sense of sight comes in second in importance after the sense of hearing, as God says in the Quran in this concern what means :{Verily We created Man from a drop of mingled sperm, in order to try him: So We gave him (the gifts), of Hearing and Sight} (Surat Al Insan <076.002 >).

The sight is the mirror or a reflection of the body and its tool of distinction. It is the window though which we have see the surrounding world, and by which we can probe shapes, sizes and colors. The sight is man’s means of identifying God’s creatures and contemplating them. Allah says <<Say: “Travel through the earth and see how Allah did originate creation; so will Allah produce a later creation: for Allah has power over all things>> (Surat Al Ankabout <29:20>>).

And, as we have already said, because the eyes are the most precious things that we have, we should take good care of them and protect them against any potential and possible harm.

And among the many things that should help us protect our eyes and preserve their health and strength, is refraining from using them in what Allah forbids, because they are one of Allah’s several bounties upon us. One of the acts that tire the eyes is watching pornographic films. Allah says in His Holy Book in this concern what means {surely the hearing and the sight and the heart, all of these, shall be questioned about that} (Surat Al Israa < 17:36>). Therefore, a Muslim should divert his/her senses from what displeases Allah, and should not consume them in what is not useful. Letting the gaze roam freely at what arouses the desire and causes fitah (temptation) contradicts completely with the healthy fitrah (innate nature of human) that Allah has given us.

Al Tabarany and Hakim reported from Abdu Allah Ibn Masoad, May Allah be pleased with him that he said: The prophet of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) reported from Allah Almighty that He said: “The glance is a poisoned arrow of shaytaan (Satan). Whoever lowers his gaze for Allah, He will bestow upon him a refreshing sweetness, which he will find in his heart on the day he meets Him.”

Lowering the gaze and its health benefits

The question is: Does lowering the gaze have any benefits to the human health? Scientific research and studies proved that repeated desirous looking at the opposite sex, and the ensuing need to fulfill the suppressed and unfulfilled desires, lead to many problems as serious as productive system diseases, such as the cognition of prostate, the sexual inability, or total infertility.

Some social studies have also proved that, in western societies, not lowering the gaze leads to depression and other psychological disorders. Such studies also indicate that moral disintegration and sexual  promiscuity in those societies are some of the results of the inexistence of a religious doctrine or ethical and moral restrictions that regulate such a noble sense and channel it into what conforms to the human physical and psychological health.

The sense of sight is absolutely the strongest of the senses as far as responding to sexual excitement is concerned. Using this sense unconsciously and indiscriminately in looking at what arouses the desires simply means that its owner is wasting it unknowingly, and consequently is wasting his/her own psychological balance in vain and in no return except for an illusion of enjoyment and pleasure. The best remedy for the desirous looking at the opposite sex is to remember that Allah is always there seeing us all the time, and is watching over our deeds.Remind yourself that Allah sees you but you can’t see Him, so where on earth could you be able to commit  a sin without being caught? Where would such a place be?. Also remind yourself of Allah’s (thawab) forgiveness and reward for those who lower their gaze in fear and obedience of Him, as the prophet (peace and blessing of Allah be upon him) said, as narrated by Ahmad and Al Tabarany, <<Whoever( Muslim) looks at the beauties of a woman, then lowers his gaze, Allah will reward him with an act of worship that he feels its sweetness in his heart>>.

 

An anonymous from one of the coastal cities says “When I was young, my only pastime was to hang out with my friends in the streets and on the beach to look at  beautiful women and girls and harass them. It used to give me great pleasure at first, then, over time, it turned to be something like addiction. I started to fall back in my studies, and the pictures of the girls and women I looked at, would stick to my mind and never left me  when I was awake nor when I was asleep”.

“And they came to me in my dreams. I started to live a strange life; a mixture of reality and dreams. Unlike all my peers , I failed to form any successful relation with any of my female colleagues.. My spirits were so low, and I started to go to psychiatrists, and to take sedatives, until someone advised me to get married, Which I did. I thought, like everyone did, that, with marriage, my problem would come to an end, and that my suppressed desires would be vented out naturally. Easier said! I realized that I suffered from sexual frigidity  to a degree that I couldn’t imagine. Life turned  dark in my eyes and I cried every night like a child”.

“Day after day, and as I started to pray and read Quran regularly, peace returned to my soul. One day, I read that verse from surat Al Noor, in which God says what means  (Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze), and it was such a great day in my life. I became sure that this Book (The Quran) can not be the words of anyone but the Creator of this universe. I have loved Allah so much since that day, and loved His Book too. That Book ,whose letters and words touches every part of the human soul, and guide it to the light, purity and righteousness. And after obeying Allah, I recovered and came back to my previous normal state “.

Article was taken from: Enyclopedia of  miracles in Quran and Sunnah

Hayaa: Modesty, Shyness and Honour Together

Source : http://muqith.wordpress.com/2012/03/11/hayaa-modesty-shyness-and-honour-together/#comment-1393

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1. How does hayaa play a role in everyday life?

Hayaa is modesty, shyness, self-respect, shame, bashfulness – all these aspects of hayaa are directly connected with our day to day activities. Hayaa keeps a Muslim from behaving in a bad, evil or shameful manner.

2. Name some of the virtues of hayaa.

* Allah loves those who have hayaa in them

* Hayaa is one of the great virtues of Islam. It is the ethic of Islam.

* Hayaa only brings good and nothing else.

* Hayaa leads to Jannah.

3. How can hayaa be acquired?

Hayaa can be acquired by:

* Making one’s imaan stronger

* Recognising bad actions as evil acts,

* Being fearful of Allah to fall in these bad actions

* Feeling ashamed of the community

4. Give an example of each level of hayaa.

Spiritual Hayaa: Modesty before Allah – To feel ashamed to do anything that displeases Him.

Social Hayaa: Modesty before people – To avoid immoral or disrespectful behaviours like obscenity and bad behaviour.

Personal Hayaa: Modesty with oneself – To avoid all shameful acts, especially when no one is around, like undressing oneself

5. Give some examples of how hayaa can be misused.

* Being silent or passive in the presence of falsehood or injustice

* Not discouraging evil

* Not encouraging good

* Not doing what is correct and allowed

6. Identify and write a hadeeth on hayaa:

“Among the things that people have found from the words of the previous prophets was: ‘If you feel no shame, then do as you like”.

7. Identify and write the hadeeth on the branches of iman:

“Iman has seventy branches. The highest is La ilaaha il-lal-laah, and the lowest branch is to remove something harmful from the road. And hayaa is a branch of iman”.

8. Hayaa is something that is not in every person. Write a brief example of someone that you know or have seen that does not show hayaa. (You can write your own answer. One answer is provided here)

Today we come across people who are dressed but still they are naked. People who work in films and advertising industry wearing see-through dresses, indulging in shameful chitchat with people especially opposite gender arouse sexual passions of the public and the viewers.

9. Why do you think some people have no hayaa? Can these people attain Hayaa. If so, how?

Hayaa is a natural urge that keeps people away from shame and indecency. However, due to bad friendship and societal influence, a person’s hayaa is lost. But hayaa can be easily attained as a result of learning about this virtue and observing others practising it. For example: A boy or a girl may refuse to go to the beach with swimsuits or wear revealing clothes, although he or she used to do that before.

 

Source:       http://muqith.wordpress.com/2012/03/11/hayaa-modesty-shyness-and-honour-together/#comment-1393

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