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The best among you!!!!

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Assalam o alikum warahmatuLLAHI wa barakatuhu!

have you ever noticed???

we are praised by people to whom we are less known as compared to people we are known. (family)

they praise us , and we become happy and start thinking that oohhh! we are very good natured , we are very mannered ones ,we are very good muslims, look everyone who meets us says the same. . .

red light!,, stop for a while!

does our family members praise us the same way as do other people??? 

the answer to this question is ‘no’ usually. and it proves us not to be a best muslim as we think ourselves that we are.

why??? because you are good or bad is tested when you live for sometime with someone, and they observe you in thick and thin.

being good and mannered to class fellows, being good to someone you meet in docter’s clinic, someone at the bus stand or in the bus or anywhere for sometime does not testify  that you are best .

never judge yourself this way, never betray yourself this way!!

because what proves us best is you know what???

it is when our own family members certify our goodness, when they are happy with us. when they don’t have complaints of us. 

And i am not saying it on my own, im saying because my Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) said:

“The best of you is he, who is best to his family , and i am the best among you to my family.”

Let’s promise ourselves to be Best muslims!, lets follow Rasool ULLAH (salal lahu alihi wassalam)

Because never we have read about any family member of him complaining about him…

Have you ever read anything like such?? of course not.

why because he was not like us only praised by unknowns , but by known  as well, by the very nearest ones.

Never betray yourself , never judge yourself , your behavior by the comments of those who know not much about you, and never start thinking that your family is mad who ain’t happy with you, when the rest of the world is. Because i believe, you truly become a mannered and a lovely being when your own family members praise you the same as the rest of the world does.

May ALLAH makes us the coolness of the eyes of our family, and make us the true follower of Rasoolullah sallal laho alaihi wasssalam .

Allahumma Ameen

How can i forgive?

Assalam o Alikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu

Have you noticed we all have becomes so  sick when it comes on tolerance and forgiveness.

See, we have different natures, difference capacities, different way of living, with such conditions it is evident that we will feel the difference.

Having differences is never bad, what is bad and horrific is not to accept the differences, and try to convince people to follow our styles, speak the way we speak, live the way we live. When we become such extremist, this is the point where the problem begins.

Remember! never ever try to compare yourself with others, because either you will fall in an inferiority complex by doing this or in a superiority complex.  Both are bad. Both spoil the personality.

People are often emotional, they hurt us. But all what we do in response is that we either hurt them back, or we start keeping grudges for them.

Who gets effected? The very first person who is spoiled is “YOU” yourself. They are happy in their life, they even don’t remember or felt that they hurt you.  So why are you bothering? Why don’t you forgive and forget too?

Yes, i know you are thinking it’s easy to say but hard to act upon.

Forgiveness is easy if we start taking the fights, and differences positively.

Whenever someone hurts you, find reasons why they did that. And be positive, make positive estimations that may be he/she was depressed, may be he had some personal issues, may be someone insulted him, probably he faced a loss in dealings, surely she din’t really mean what she said. There are hundreds and hundreds of positive estimations that we can make, and make them a reason ladder to forgive people and hug them back.

And think that it was his capacity which he showed by expressing badly, let i show my capacity by expressing well.

ALLAH subhanahu ta’ala has all powers, and on our tiny mistakes He can punish us, but He forgives and keeps forgiving, then why we do become so aggressive  when someone advice us to forgive someone?

For bad behavior, everyone feels bad and replies bad, but to reply pleasantly is something blessed blessed people can do. This is such a great property which is not given to every single person.

Whenever you get depressed on recalling the past and whatever happened, remember you are your own enemy if you are not forgiving people, you are harming yourself , not others, you are making your own loss, by keeping grudges, and growing hatreds.

All your life gets effected, your family takes effect of the behaviors you show as a result of these grudges and tensions, your work is neglected, and all the loss comes back to you.

So isn’t it better to take a deep breath and think let i forgive that person, let i forgive everyone, let i clean my heart and become a better servant of ALLAH.

And read the following Hadith carefully.

The Messenger of Allah was seated in a gathering with the Sahabah when he looked towards the entrance and said, “A man of Paradise is coming.” At that instance someone who seemed to be very ordinary entered the mosque where they were seated. A Sahabi was curious as to why the Prophet .‘ said this, so he followed the man to his house. This Sahabi told the man that he was a traveler and stayed as a guest. For three days the Sahabi saw nothing unusual, so he finally told the man what the Prophet had said and asked him what was so special. The man thought for a long time and said, “There might be one thing — before going to sleep every night I forgive everyone and sleep with a clean heart.” 

Let’s try to practice forgiveness this week in sha ALLAH.  Let’s before ending the post, forgive everyone who ever hurt us any way just for the sake of ALLAH, and next time meet them with a smiling face.

We will be interested to know how many people did you forget 🙂 Will discuss below.

Let’s forgive , let’s forget in sha ALLAH 🙂

Reflect.

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Let’s share a brief moment of faith:

“Reflect upon what you did during the day and whether or not Allah (SWT) would be pleased with you.”

With every action, whether good or bad, I always ask my friends if they would be okay doing what they are doing in front of their parents. Most, if not all, say they would not continue what they are doing in front of their parents, for their parents will surely “beat them up.” And then I asked them, “If you are afraid of your parents witnessing what you are doing, and not pleasing them with your actions – why not be afraid of Allah, Who Is All-Knowing and All-Seeing? Surely the blaze of Hellfire will be more painful than a beating.” Just think about it, reflecting everyday on your actions and noting down how many things you did – whether or not Allah swt will be pleased with you. Are you constantly doing things to gain his reward and acceptance to Jannah? What are you doing for His sake each and every second of everyday? Anything that you do otherwise would be a waste of time – unless you are investing in to your future of course. Reflect on what you did today that may have granted you Allah’s pleasure!

Keep your Children busy with yourself

الحمد لله وصلى الله على نبينا محمد وآله وصحبه وسلم

As parents we should not forget that if children has nothing to do, they will do something else. Human brain cannot remain empty, if you having nothing to do or nothing to think, satan will occupy your mind. That’s why when most of us stand in Salaah, our mind keeps on wondering because we don’t really do or think anything except standing up and sitting.

There are a lot of things which are halaal and you can use them and they are beneficial as well. Play games with your children (indoor games) in your garden. Create a blog for your children and by the time you have more than one child, create categories for each child. Let them write on each week an article (Islaamic articles) and then you upload them from written text online. This will open doors of his/her heart to you and its a source of goodness for both.

Keep your children busy with yourself, if you don’t, they will use other means to keep themselves busy which is a source of sadness for both. Take out a big amount of time for your wife and children to give them guidance and advice so that you don’t just become an ATM machine for them, but act as an accountable husband and father as well. Otherwise if you go by the routine work like from job to home and home to job, you will see the evil results very soon. No productive interactions, no twists, nothing different, these things result in depression and anxiety inside one’s home.

 

Source: In Jannah.wordpress.com

It’s not just what to say, but when to say it

Source: Inspiring Character. 

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Most are familiar with this saying of Muhammad (ﷺ) to the young Ibn Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him): “O young boy…protect Allaah and Allaah will protect you. Protect Allaah and you will find Allaah in front of you…“ What is interesting, apart from the content, is the context. Ibn Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) is the younger cousin of Muhammad (ﷺ) and had on many occasions spent the night in the house of the Prophet (ﷺ).

One would imagine that the best time to say such an important Prophetic advice is indeed at home, in the quiet hours of the night, when there are not outside distractions, and probably when Ibn Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) is in a better condition to “memorize and reflect“? Rather, Muhammad (ﷺ) chose another setting: when both were in a journey together.

To Muhammad (ﷺ) it was not about the place but the time. Children are certainly happier when they are outside the house, and in a journey with someone they love. It’s in this context of a child’s joy, even if with outside distractions, that Muhammad (ﷺ)spoke!

Moreover, there is also a clear example of what is called in parent literature ‘bonding’. Muhammad (ﷺ) rather than keeping quiet during the journey, or better engaging in Allaah’s remembrance, he spoke to the child. Many parents think that their parenting job is simply taking their children to eat out or go to the funfair, and leave them eating or playing alone, while the parent is checking his/her mobile, emails, WhatsApp and, yes, Facebook!

I am not saying that you have to necessarily talk to your child about specific religious issues, maybe sometimes not, but about just talking to him/her. Making him/her feel that you genuinely care about and love, by a simple conversation or non interrogative open ended questions. This is what is meant by ‘bonding‘.

Ibn Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) was not just conveying to us the saying of the Prophet (ﷺ), which of course he was, but also subtly telling us, how dear he was to Muhammad (ﷺ)!

Dr Hesham Al-Awadi