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The ”Happily ever after”

What really goes wrong with the ”happy marriages” and the expected happy to be couples. What do things suddenly become different after marriage? What mistakes do the couple do before entering into the bond of marriage that later hurt? And is there a way to fix unhappy marriages?


I’m in Love! Are you?

Writer: Palwashay Khan
The QURAN says:
“And she, in whose house he was, sought to seduce him. She closed the doors and said, “Come, you.” He said, “[I seek] the refuge of Allah . Indeed, he is my master, who has made good my residence. Indeed, wrongdoers will not succeed.”And she certainly determined [to seduce] him, and he would have inclined to her had he not seen the proof of his Lord. And thus [it was] that We should avert from him evil and immorality. Indeed, he was of Our chosen servants.And they both raced to the door, and she tore his shirt from the back, and they found her husband at the door. She said, “What is the recompense of one who intended evil for your wife but that he be imprisoned or a painful punishment?”(surah yusuf verse no.23,24,25)
and thn the quran says……She said, “That is the one about whom you blamed me. And I certainly sought to seduce him, but he firmly refused; and if he will not do what I order him, he will surely be imprisoned and will be of those debased.
(Surah Yusuf verse no.32)
Why did she {raeel} do that? Why did she call him for this? Why did she blamed him in front of her husband? Why did she threatened him? Was’nt she in love with Yousaf a.s?
Let us find the answers to these questions……
Actually there are three basic kinds of love:
1. Love based on lust and desires of nafs:
                                                                 The pillars of such kind of love are desires of nafs,attractions,pleasure and lust.This kind of love is extremely short termed…because it emerges readily and with the same velocity…..
There are many examples…like people feel pleasure in having someone really beautiful as their partner so that they feel superior while walking along with is the base of their love..but will that beauty last forever?
2-Love for the sake of benefits:
                                                     This type of love prevails when we are greedy for benefits. This love does not initiates until and unless we find the other person beneficial for us. It takes time to build up but ens effortlessly,soon after we reap the crop(that benefit). for example we love someone because of their beauty or wealth. As far as that beauty or wealth ,we assert to be in love but as soon as that beauty or wealth ruins and ends , our love also end simultaneously.
3-Love based on khair:
                                           The alternate name for this kind of love is “Love for the sake of ALLAH”,the OMNIPOTENT.
This is the very kind of love which is being demanded.
                       Love is the basic ingredient of life. One’s life is incomplete without it. Every human being is in love with something but the best love is love for the sake of ALLAH that will not only benefit us in this Dunya in shape of peace,halal pleasure and bliss  but also in Akhirah.
Abû Hurayrah relates that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
“Allah will ask on the Day of Judgment: ‘Where are those who loved each other for the sake of My glory? Today, – on a day when there is no shade but mine – I shall shade them with My shade.” [Sahîh Muslim (2566)]
Then we have the famous hadîth that enumerates the seven people who will enjoy Allah’s shade on a day when there is no shade but His. One of those mentioned are:
“two men who love each other for the sake of Allah alone, meeting for that reason and parting for that reason.” [Sahîh al-Bukhârî (660) and Sahîh Muslim (1031)]
This kind of love springs with khair and will never end as long as there is khair but if it ends it will surely end in jannah with a new beginning IN SHA ALLAH 🙂
              In such love ALLAH is our first concern. HE is prior to us than ourselves and our loved one’s. Love for the sake of ALLAH is self-sacrificing, self-denying, noble and charitable. This was the reason that Hazrat Ibrahim a.s did not get upset upon the orders of slaughtering his son Ismael a.s.
This love nourishes our souls…and then we don’t urge for any other love to nourish us. This love brings us closer to ALLAH and yields for us the ultimate love.    THE LOVE OF ALLAH! 
Allah’s Messenger (saws) said,
“The best of you is he who is best to his family, and I am the best among you to my family.”(Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3252 Narrated by Aisha ; Abdullah ibn Abbas)
But Hazrat Aisha R.A says that when azan was called, Prophet SAW USED TO RUSH TOWARD ALLAH , disconnecting from us and  the world as if HE SAW is a stranger.
This shows that even he immensely loved HIS family…but still this love never became a hurdle in the path of his love for ALLAH….
Another example of such kind of love is that in this love,the love of ALLAH intensifies and boosts tremendously day-by-day. Everyday attests its weight in gold and proves to be fruitful, fertile and valuable for magnifying and amplifying the love of ALLAH.
Loving someone for the sake of ALLAH is not something you can always explain. However,when you love someone for the sake of ALLAH then you desire no personal benefit from that person,your love is unselfish and it relates you to love of ALLAH.
This love is eternal and immortal….because it is affiliated with the ONE who is QAYYUM…THE ONE WHO ENJOYS IMMORTALITY….. that is why the love of ABU BAKR R.A lasted forever even when the Prophet pbuh left this dunya…..
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The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
“A Muslim’s supplication for his brother in secret is answered. At his head an angel is appointed, and whenever he supplicates for his brother with something good, the angel appointed to him says: ‘Amîn, and likewise for you’.” [Sahîh Muslim (2733)]
So indeed the wife of al-azeez (raeel) was in love with Yusuf A.S but this love was based upon her desires of nafs….not at all for the sake of ALLAH….
Let’s dive in! Let’s ask ourselves .  Are we in Love???  Which Love? 

Fall In Love With The Real Thing



Fall in Love with the Real Thing

It’s never easy to let go. Or is it? Most of us would agree that there are few things harder than letting go of what we love. And yet, sometimes that’s exactly what we have to do. Sometimes we love things that we can’t have. Sometimes we want things that are not good for us. And sometimes we love what Allah does not love. To let go of these things is hard. Giving up something the heart adores is one of the hardest battles we ever have to fight.

But what if it didn’t have to be such a battle? What if it didn’t have to be so hard? Could there ever be an easy way to let go of an attachment? Yes. There is.

Find something better.

They say you don’t get over someone until you find someone or something better. As…

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The Real Hijab

Written By: Misbah Safdar 


I seek protection in ALLAH from the accursed Shaitaan

I begin in the name of ALLAH, the most gracious and the most merciful.

Allah Ta’ala says: “And tell the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their private parts from sin and not show of their adornment except only that which is apparent, and draw their headcovers over their necks and bosoms and not reveal their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands’ fathers, their sons, their husbands’ sons, their brothers, or their brothers’ sons, or their sisters’ sons, or their women (i.e., their sisters in Islam), or their female slaves whom their right hands possess, or old male servants free of physical desires, or small children who have no sense of women’s nakedness. And let them not stamp their feet so as to reveal what they hide of their adornment. And turn unto Allah altogether, O you Believers, in order that you may attain success.[An-Nur, 24:31]

This aayah does not mean just to cover your body then you can fulfill this order. Rather there’s much more in this. This is what where we muslims are lacking. We need to find out the hidden meanings in the Holy Quran. What is actually demanded in Islam. For that purpose we need to understand Quran. Hijab is not a thing that can be enforced but we must know the true purpose of it that is to give respect and modesty to woman. But most of us dont want this respect. We can even say this about a woman who wears hijab if this hijab dosen’t appear in her behavior.

I always wonder that what would be the purpose of hijab if a women wears it but does not practice it in her behavour. The term Hijab, includes not only dress and covering the body, but methods of behavior before members of the same or opposite gender, promoting privacy for females and prohibiting loose intermingling between males and females, and thereby encouraging modesty, decency, chastity, simplicity and above all, respect and worship of Allah.

Misbah Safdar