How can i forgive?
Assalam o Alikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu
Have you noticed we all have becomes so sick when it comes on tolerance and forgiveness.
See, we have different natures, difference capacities, different way of living, with such conditions it is evident that we will feel the difference.
Having differences is never bad, what is bad and horrific is not to accept the differences, and try to convince people to follow our styles, speak the way we speak, live the way we live. When we become such extremist, this is the point where the problem begins.
Remember! never ever try to compare yourself with others, because either you will fall in an inferiority complex by doing this or in a superiority complex. Both are bad. Both spoil the personality.
People are often emotional, they hurt us. But all what we do in response is that we either hurt them back, or we start keeping grudges for them.
Who gets effected? The very first person who is spoiled is “YOU” yourself. They are happy in their life, they even don’t remember or felt that they hurt you. So why are you bothering? Why don’t you forgive and forget too?
Yes, i know you are thinking it’s easy to say but hard to act upon.
Forgiveness is easy if we start taking the fights, and differences positively.
Whenever someone hurts you, find reasons why they did that. And be positive, make positive estimations that may be he/she was depressed, may be he had some personal issues, may be someone insulted him, probably he faced a loss in dealings, surely she din’t really mean what she said. There are hundreds and hundreds of positive estimations that we can make, and make them a reason ladder to forgive people and hug them back.
And think that it was his capacity which he showed by expressing badly, let i show my capacity by expressing well.
ALLAH subhanahu ta’ala has all powers, and on our tiny mistakes He can punish us, but He forgives and keeps forgiving, then why we do become so aggressive when someone advice us to forgive someone?
For bad behavior, everyone feels bad and replies bad, but to reply pleasantly is something blessed blessed people can do. This is such a great property which is not given to every single person.
Whenever you get depressed on recalling the past and whatever happened, remember you are your own enemy if you are not forgiving people, you are harming yourself , not others, you are making your own loss, by keeping grudges, and growing hatreds.
All your life gets effected, your family takes effect of the behaviors you show as a result of these grudges and tensions, your work is neglected, and all the loss comes back to you.
So isn’t it better to take a deep breath and think let i forgive that person, let i forgive everyone, let i clean my heart and become a better servant of ALLAH.
And read the following Hadith carefully.
The Messenger of Allah was seated in a gathering with the Sahabah when he looked towards the entrance and said, “A man of Paradise is coming.” At that instance someone who seemed to be very ordinary entered the mosque where they were seated. A Sahabi was curious as to why the Prophet .‘ said this, so he followed the man to his house. This Sahabi told the man that he was a traveler and stayed as a guest. For three days the Sahabi saw nothing unusual, so he finally told the man what the Prophet had said and asked him what was so special. The man thought for a long time and said, “There might be one thing — before going to sleep every night I forgive everyone and sleep with a clean heart.”
Let’s try to practice forgiveness this week in sha ALLAH. Let’s before ending the post, forgive everyone who ever hurt us any way just for the sake of ALLAH, and next time meet them with a smiling face.
We will be interested to know how many people did you forget 🙂 Will discuss below.
Let’s forgive , let’s forget in sha ALLAH 🙂